You Said "I Do" - But Have You Ever Sat Down to Design the Life You Said Yes To?
Transform your marriage in a weekend with quarterly relationship meetings reimagined.Â
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Stop letting "later" steal your life!
To the outside world, you've made it. You're living a good life.
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You're successful and high-achieving.Â
You've completed society's checklist:
â go to school
â Â graduate
â Â get a good job
â Â climb the corporate ladder
â Â get married
â  buy a house
â Â have kids and
â Â take a couple of vacations a year.Â
On default, you'll keep doing this until you're 65, retire and can "enjoy life".Â
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BUT you've heard a voice in your head whisper, "is this it?"
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You're grateful, but you feel like something is missing.
You want to break the cycle of every day feeling the same.Â
Wake up. Get everyone out the door. Work. Dinner. Bedtime. Clean up. Collapse on the couch and numb out with Netflix and wine. Sleep. Repeat.
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You love your life, but you're not as happy as you thought you'd be.
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Most days it feels like youâre stuck on a treadmill - managing schedules instead of making memories.
You're too tired at the end of the day to meaningfully connect with your spouse.
Somedays you feel more like roommates than partners. Going to bed without a single meaningful glance at each other.Â
And when you talk, it's only about being busy and the logistics of daily life - like, what's for dinner, the kids and if there's enough gas to make it until tomorrow.Â
Life and your marriage just feel transactional. And some days are boring AF!Â
You feel like life is passing by without a plan and you desperately want to take back control.
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What you really want is to be EXCITED in your marriage and life vs. overwhelmed, resentful and angry.
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Youâre tired of your relationship feeling like a business meeting or like you're roommates.Â
Transactional check-ins, rushed mornings and evenings spent scrolling side by side instead of actually connecting.Â
So, then IMAGINE if the next weekend was the moment you built your dream life together ...
Instead of running errands, catching up on chores or zoning out in front of the TV, youâll do something youâve never done before: press pause on the noise and turn toward each other.
â¨Â The wine is poured.
â¨Â  The distractions are gone.
â¨Â The conversations are deeper than theyâve been in years.
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This isn't just another weekend.
Itâs the moment you both stop coasting and start creating the life you actually want.
This isnât a âmeeting.â Itâs a rendezvous with the future you both desire.
A weekend where your relationship shifts from autopilot to fully alive.
- The nights feel electric. Not from screens, but from the clarity and excitement of mapping out a life that actually excites you.
- The mornings feel lighter. Because for the first time, you both know exactly where youâre headed.
- Your home feels different. Not just a place you live, but a space that holds the vision youâve designed together.
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What This Weekend Will Feel Like
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This isnât another stressful âfamily planningâ conversation at the kitchen table.
This is planning reimagined.
- Instead of drowning in logistics, youâre dreaming bigger than ever before.
- Instead of negotiating schedules, youâre crafting a vision you both canât wait to step into.
- Instead of numbing out, youâre leaning in - turning âsomedayâ into now.
For the first time in years, youâll experience what it feels like to be truly aligned, inspired and in sync.
And the best part?
This shift doesnât take months of therapy, exhausting conversations or an impossible amount of effort. It takes one intentional weekend.
One weekend to turn the life youâve talked about into the life youâre actually building.
Just keep reading to read our results and the results our couples have had!Â
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Why Most Couples Donât Get Here
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- They convince themselves theyâll "talk later" - but later never comes. (Spoiler: "later" is just a delay tactic! We prioritize and make time for what's important to us.)
- They feel like strategic planning is all calendars and chores (hint:Â itâs not).
- Most importantly -Â only one partner is driving the dream, while the other feels like a passenger.
This relationship meeting, better known as a Quarterly Marriage Alignment Weekend is different!
Itâs designed to dissolve hesitations, have your partner excited to lean in and turn your shared dreams into something you both canât wait to create together.
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What Happens After the Weekend:
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- Youâll both be clear on your next steps, not in a stressful way, but in an empowering, effortless way.
- Your life will start to expand because youâve reclaimed not just your time but your power to create something extraordinary.
Let's Turn A Routine Weekend Into Something Unforgettable
One Weekend. A Lifetime of Alignment. Letâs Begin. Join Now.Ready to level-up as a couple and do life differently BUT DON'T KNOW HOW? We have the HOW you're looking for.
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It's our Quarterly Marriage Alignment Program!
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The lives we've created for ourselves, and helped other couples create, are an example of what's possible for you and your married life when you do what we're teaching.
In the last 5 years, we've planned for and realized these dreams:
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- Became millionaires in our 30s and created financial stability that allowed us to both retire ourselves from the practice of law just a month apart (in 2024), so we can pursue our next dreams of entrepreneurship and a life by our own design
- Started a family with fertility assistance at the ages of 35 and 36
- Building a real estate portfolio
- đ Traveled through Amsterdam and Portugal for 6 weeks with Matteo (our first son), when he was just 3-months old
- âď¸ Taken Matteo on 26 flights before he turned 2 years old
- đ§đ˝ââď¸ Aman built up a side business teaching yoga to lawyers and hosting Vision Board Workshops (Beyond Yoga for Lawyers)
- đĽÂ Aman and Matteo were extras in 2 Christmas movies: Coupled Up for Christmas and Me & Mr. Christmas
- Invested in a local start-up company that ultimately failed
- đşď¸ Traveled to Amsterdam, Vico Equense and Sardinia, Italy for the month of June 2024 creating memories as a family before the arrival of our second son in Nov 2024
- đđťââď¸ââĄď¸Â Tom set and achieved his goal of running a half marathon last summer
- đď¸We started a Podcast called Marriage with IntentionÂ
What's a Quarterly Marriage Alignment Weekend?
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At the most basic level, it's a relationship meeting. But, it's a relationship meeting reimagined!
It's done over a weekend (that you'll schedule) with your spouse of dedicated time to design the life of your dreams using our 5-Step Framework.
It's sacred time and space to connect deeply with your spouse about forgotten dreams, money and your shared life vision.Â
If you've ever wished of a life with less stress, more memories as a family, creating generational wealth or just getting on the same page about your finances, doing your estate plan so your kids are taken care of, eating healthier, exercising more, writing a book, doing a home reno that's sat for years, doing a TEDx talk, getting into real estate investing, starting a business, moving to the mountains (like one of our couples) or taking a summer road trip to the national parks with your kids or something you haven't even dreamt of yet because you haven't given yourself the time to pause --THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU!Â
If you know how to do the math on life, the TIME TO DO THIS IS NOW not later.
Because "later" never comes.
Step into the Marriage You Both Deserve. It Starts Here. Join Now.Meet Your Life Strategists for Couples
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Hi, we're Aman & Tom.
We are Life Strategists for Couples and former lawyers.
We are high-achieving, driven individuals. We met in law school in 2009 and were decade plus-long practicing lawyers in private practice until 2024, with Aman being a Partner for 6 of those years.
Once we became lawyers in 2013, we thought weâd be âhappyâ âcause we had achieved our career goals. But the reality was that early in our careers, we had become so focused on work and people-pleasing, that our relationship suffered along with our hobbies and other interests.
As part of our evolution, in 2017, we became attracted to the financial independence movement and worked hard on our financial stability.
In 2019, we got engaged and wanted to create couple goals and plan a future tailored for us. So, this led us to doing this Program in January 2020. It helped us get clarity on our life goals and direction as a couple and find the space and time to start talking about big dreams.
Weâve been doing these quarterly relationship meetings for over 5 years! And, weâre so passionate about them because of the results we've created that weâre on a mission to help couples worldwide who want to do life on their own terms.Â
If you know how to do the math on life, the TIME TO DO THIS IS NOW not later.
Because "later" never comes.
One Weekend. A Lifetime of Alignment. Letâs Begin. Join Now.
Vanessa & Jack achieved 3 BIG RESULTS!
This life strategy program for couples is powerful because Aman and Tom don't just teach it, they courageously live and exemplify what they are teaching -- a life by design.
When life gets busy with kids, career, and responsibilities it's easy to let inertia take the wheel both in what you do in life and how you are in your marriage.
We've been married for 14 years and had some deep conversations from the very first module that we hadn't had before. We started the program just 4 weeks before the due date for our second baby and with a toddler at home. Still, we made the commitment to follow the process. It was so refreshing!
Using the framework along with Aman and Tom's friendly and structured guidance we achieved 3 big results.
First, we had much-needed conversations about how we have been and want to be showing up for each other in our relationship.
Second, we were able to drop into what we dream about for our growing family's future and start envisioning new adventures together.
Lastly, even though we had made spreadsheets about our finances in the past, we were stuck at an impasse on a big financial decision.
Our experience helped us answer some lingering financial questions and find alignment.
As Aman and Tom express so well -- big dreams need funding. These results are within reach for any couple.
What is missing for most of us is the commitment, structure, and accountability to turn intentions into action, dreams into real-life adventures. This is the value of the program.
To anyone that is unsure about whether to go for it, stop trying to go it alone and say YES. You won't get to these deep conversations "someday."
It isn't always easy to create the space to connect but it can be simple if you follow this user-friendly framework. This is an opportunity to expand into a greater vision of your future.
- Vanessa & Jack
What's inside the 1:1 VIP Program:
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1. Online Course
Follow along videos that give you a step-by-step process.
The videos include real life examples and thought starters, so you aren't stuck thinking "I don't know" or "I have no dreams".Â
2. WorkbookÂ
A Workbook that you'll fill in as you watch the videos.
There are detailed worksheets with fill-in-the-blank sections making it easy to start and go deep quickly.
BONUS sections are included for you like, how to create family money rules and a wrap-up checklist to help you compound your results.
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3. Three 1:1 Accountability & Strategy Calls
For faster results and accountability, you'll meet with the Costigans virtually BEFORE and AFTER your Quarterly Marriage Alignment Weekend.Â
You'll leave these calls knowing exactly what you're next steps are!
No confusion, just a clear plan of action.
â Â Pre-Call: Get You ReadyÂ
â Post-Call: Goal Implementation and Strategy
â 60 day Post-Call
You'll also get a Pre-Checklist that'll make it quick and easy for you to prepare for your Quarterly Marriage Alignment weekend e.g. meal planning.
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4. A Private Community
A private community on Facebook. Connect with other driven, like-minded couples worldwide, celebrate your wins and share your goals!
The 2 Program Options:
You have 2 Programs to choose from:
1) the Do-It-Yourself Online Program or
2) the 1:1 VIP Online Program.
Frequently Asked Questions:
What goals have couples set and achieved through your Quarterly Marriage Alignment Program?
What if my partner wonât be into this? Read this First.
Who is the Program NOT for?
Will I get lifetime access to the instructional videos?
I don't like Facebook, do I have to join the private group?
What if I still have more questions?
There's no more nagging or just talk with no action for Kasey & Jessica.
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My partner and I like to day-dream (ok, it's mainly me...) BUT, we frequently talk about what's going on in our live's and the craziness that life becomes when you have a 1 year old, a dog, and your own business. We found ourselves talking and not acting. When we met Aman and Tom, we knew about their journey and the impact the Quarterly Marriage Alignment weekend has had on their life, so when the opportunity arose I took it.
The Program opened our eyes to the structure we need to be more successful by allowing us to goal set more effectively and keep each other accountable. Whether it's looking at our financials, talking about the future, or envisioning who our future selves will become, the Program provides the structure you need to build a better future together.
We now keep each other accountable and ensure we are doing so in a way that is fun and constructive. No more "nagging" as we are on the same page about everything because our goals are aligned allowing us to stay more balanced in this crazy period of our lives.
If you are unsure about the Program, don't be. It will be something you won't regret investing in as long as you continue to put in the work. If you're looking for structure, this Program will give it to you.
- Kasey & Jessica
If you know how to do the math on life, the TIME TO DO THIS IS NOW not later.
Because "later" never comes.
Design a Marriage that Feels like an Upgrade - Not a To-Do List. Join Now.
It completely resolved their disagreements, helped them come up with a plan & led to unexpected results
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The Program has been a game-changer for our marriage. We've been married for 25 years and participated in prior couples retreats and therapy, but nothing has been this helpful in terms of getting us on the same page as to what we want our present and future to look like.
I'm a natural dreamer and planner! My husband is not. I had no hesitation in signing up, but he was highly skeptical and reluctant. He didn't want to give up that amount of time, spend money on something he thought we could do on our own, or do all the exercises.
He agreed to do it, though, because we had been having disagreements over our retirement and home remodeling plans. Not only did it completely resolve our disagreements and help us come up with a plan we both feel great about, it also led to unexpected results.
We're more adventurous, more open to possibility, and thinking bigger as a couple than we have since we were newlyweds.
P.S. My husband would say he still doesn't enjoy the process, but absolutely loves the results, so he's all in!Â
-Â Heather (and Mike) Hubbard
